Thursday, January 28, 2010

Paperwork is Good?

Sometimes, I think that adoption paperwork is a plot against trees. Everytime I think I'm done, I'm printing out more papers to sign and mail back to one location or another. However, I print those papers without a second thought.

I know I've talked about it before, but it's high in my mind again because we're going through the process again. Recently, someone told me that they don't think it's fair that we have to jump through so many hoops to adopt when someone who chooses to have a child biologically doesn't.

Despite my frustration with the never ending forms, I still have to disagree with that statement. Being a parent is not easy. Why should becoming a parent be easy? If someone is able to make it through the endless months of paperwork, waiting, more paperwork, more waiting...they must really want to be a parent. Right? Okay, not always, but I would guess that many a parent has changed his/her mind somewhere in the process.

Perhaps if everyone had to "jump through hoops" before becoming a parent we would have less children waiting for homes.

So, I will swallow my complaints and complete my paperwork. I don't think I'll go as far as saying paperwork is good, but I will say that adoption should not be easy.


kelly said...

I have to say I agree with you on this one. Not that I didn't complain about all the paperwork we had to do at the time :) I especially like your first line.

Congratulations on your referral! I hope your wait goes smoothly. We received a referral in early December and are in waiting mode too.

Gigi said...

I agree as well. If the paperwork is too much for you then you'll never make it through the challenges of paperwork.

We are int he process of adopting our 4th child and each time it's the same thing, maybe even more but in the end I wouldn't change a thing because of the outcome.

I know I have been blessed and it sounds as you have as well.

Best of luck

nathy said...

Perhaps you would also like to follow my own story and view.. I just started..

(I am a korean adoptee and planning to go and visit my family for the 2nd time)

Terra said...

I'm enjoying reading and following you.

May your wait be smooth and may beauty surround you.