tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25895055.post7489335479749093552..comments2023-05-18T10:45:30.821-04:00Comments on Korean-Adoption: Family Trees & Korean AdoptionMohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11942380766476199209noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25895055.post-44726814886156374462007-01-25T08:50:00.000-05:002007-01-25T08:50:00.000-05:00In response to anonymous, I hope that more adult a...In response to anonymous, I hope that more adult adoptees and adoptive parents write about thier pleasent experiences with adoption. I like to look at the other side of the coin as well, but it's disheartening to find so much anguish and not an equal amount of joy.Cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15946674315438271527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25895055.post-8371803831719070452007-01-22T20:49:00.000-05:002007-01-22T20:49:00.000-05:00Hi again, (I'm the same person who commented on yo...Hi again, (I'm the same person who commented on your "the other side" post)<br /><br />Again, I really identify with you. When I was in school I had no problem writing about my great-grandmother who came from Lithuania. It would never have crossed my mind to feel hurt because I couldn't write something about my biological family.<br /><br />While I think it's good to get lots of different experiences on adoption voiced (and that people feel respected and supported), I sometimes wonder if what's getting out on the web is really a representative cross-section of the adoption population. I just feel so much less anguish than most people (parents and adoptees) who write. The more I read, I sometimes wonder if I must be in some deep state of denial due to intense cultural brainwashing. Then I think, wait. I think it should be ok for me to be happy and for adoption to be a part of my life but not the dominant force. I mean it's an important thing, but I'd rather have my life be driven by what I choose.<br /><br />I really never would even have discovered this world of adoption blogs and discussion board based on my needs as an adoptee. It's just because I'm going to become an adoptive parent that I started looking at things, and then I uncovered this whole new world. And I find that some people who are speaking about what they think is "our" experience aren't speaking about mine at all. It's sort of disorienting.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25895055.post-72020379797546551902007-01-22T15:18:00.000-05:002007-01-22T15:18:00.000-05:00I think it's wise of all adoptive parents to ackno...I think it's wise of all adoptive parents to acknowledge our child's birthcountry in this situation and leave it up to them how much it known to others. As much as I would like to include it myself, that may not be my son's preference. After we received our son's referral, I frequently was questioned on the circumstances surrounding his adoption. My reply, "That is his story to share when he is older." I feel that is the same response for a family tree project as well.Cynthiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15946674315438271527noreply@blogger.com